Question:
I’m a Muslim woman who is newly married. I have a question which I find embarrassing but I feel that I should clarify. From your background, I’m sure you are at liberty to provide some answers to my question. My husband and I are in the stage of exploring the wonders of lovemaking. Recently, he asked me to perform oral sex on him. I don’t really mind submitting to his request but is this actually permitted in Islam?

Answer:
Sexuality encompasses life and life events from womb to tomb which includes knowing one self, ones gender and roles and a small part of it involves sexual feelings, human relationship, sexual relationship, birth ,living and death. For Muslims sexuality is a sacred Path a Muslim partakes following the ‘sunnah’ of the Prophet Muhammad. Sex in Islam is taken seriously. It is not a subject for fun or mere absolute pleasure. Decency and due respect always characterize the subject. In Islam, sex is related to marital life and family life. It is viewed as a superior human relationship subject to strict regulations. Thus, sex within a marital relationship is a worship that is rewarded. Outside a marital relationship, sex is a punishable sin. It is forbidden for a Muslim man to have sexual intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating.

Allah is clear on this subject: “They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an “Atha” (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified (from menses and have taken a bath). And when they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allah has ordained for you (go in unto them in any manner as long as it is in their vagina)…” (2:222)The Holy Koran. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said, “Guard your private parts except from your wife or your slaves.” Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to suck her husband’s penis (fellatio) and there is no wrong in doing so. But some say that if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is Makrooh (blameworthy), but there is no decisive evidence (to forbid it).Therefore oral sex is permissible but not an obligation. Sex is wonderful if both parties enjoy and not endure.