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The Wandering Eye
Question:
Hello, I have a question for you. Why is it that when men find a woman, one woman isn’t enough? Why do they think they have the right to check out everybody else in the world and visit the flesh market on the Internet every chance they get? Why is it that men don’t think that looking at naked women is wrong against their mate? That it’s entertainment for them? They have no moral values. That’s what’s wrong with the world today. Why can’t a man be content with the woman he’s got?
Answer:
I am afraid there is no one answer to that question. If one were to trace the origin of man one is reminded of the cave man antics when it comes to sex, that is, they will mate with as many cavewomen as they can to breed and expand the flock. Women are their common possession. If one were to refer to the Biblical Scriptures one will be reminded of Abel and Cain, or Habil and Qabil the sons of Adam and the main reason for Cain to kill Abel is because of his passion for Abel’s would be wife, his very own sister! In the same scriptures one is reminded of the Prophet David who impregnated Bathsheba, the wife of his loyal soldier and how he became impotent as the result of that! One is also reminded that one is made to respond and answer to one’s biological need and that is sex. One is reminded of this ancient Hindu belief that once man and woman were one and due to some curse, they were separated and since then their bodies have been wondering to be together, may be with many bodies before they are settled with the right one! Sigmund Freud the father of Psychoanalysis has always reminded us that we are made to be sexual and that is seen by our attitude and behaviour, after all who made the twin towers or any towers those are in actuality a representation of the phallus or the ‘lingam’ (penis) and the various shopping malls, houses and garages those are in actuality the representation of the cunnus, or the ‘yoni’ (vagina).Having said all that we are indeed a sexual being .God has given us that special element that has brought us above all living things and that is the thinking mind that gives us the power to be in control of our lives which also includes our sex drive and lust. Therefore we are responsible to our own doings. We need to take charge of ourselves. Then the World will be a lovely place to live and everybody is happy. Then there is no World!
Hello, I have a question for you. Why is it that when men find a woman, one woman isn’t enough? Why do they think they have the right to check out everybody else in the world and visit the flesh market on the Internet every chance they get? Why is it that men don’t think that looking at naked women is wrong against their mate? That it’s entertainment for them? They have no moral values. That’s what’s wrong with the world today. Why can’t a man be content with the woman he’s got?
Answer:
I am afraid there is no one answer to that question. If one were to trace the origin of man one is reminded of the cave man antics when it comes to sex, that is, they will mate with as many cavewomen as they can to breed and expand the flock. Women are their common possession. If one were to refer to the Biblical Scriptures one will be reminded of Abel and Cain, or Habil and Qabil the sons of Adam and the main reason for Cain to kill Abel is because of his passion for Abel’s would be wife, his very own sister! In the same scriptures one is reminded of the Prophet David who impregnated Bathsheba, the wife of his loyal soldier and how he became impotent as the result of that! One is also reminded that one is made to respond and answer to one’s biological need and that is sex. One is reminded of this ancient Hindu belief that once man and woman were one and due to some curse, they were separated and since then their bodies have been wondering to be together, may be with many bodies before they are settled with the right one! Sigmund Freud the father of Psychoanalysis has always reminded us that we are made to be sexual and that is seen by our attitude and behaviour, after all who made the twin towers or any towers those are in actuality a representation of the phallus or the ‘lingam’ (penis) and the various shopping malls, houses and garages those are in actuality the representation of the cunnus, or the ‘yoni’ (vagina).Having said all that we are indeed a sexual being .God has given us that special element that has brought us above all living things and that is the thinking mind that gives us the power to be in control of our lives which also includes our sex drive and lust. Therefore we are responsible to our own doings. We need to take charge of ourselves. Then the World will be a lovely place to live and everybody is happy. Then there is no World!
What is the secret for extended time in intercourse?
It has been suggested that regular work out gives strength and control of the mind over the body and if this is used to extend or prolong the time in intercourse, the same principal should work! However it is not as easy as it seems. If one is used to ejaculate fast through previous experience at masturbation, then the same thing would occur if not faster when one attempts sexual intercourse. But if one were to exert control and ensure that the sensation received during sexual intercourse does not reach the breaking point, that is the point of no return that would trigger ejaculation, then one would achieved ones desire in extending the time in intercourse. There are many approaches to exert control and maybe one of them might be just the trick for you.
The following techniques will be beneficial in delaying ejaculation:
The most common method men use is pulling out before they reach the orgasm. This method stipulates that men must anticipate the sensation of an impending orgasm. All men can anticipate when they reach orgasm, and at that point, they must stop the stimulation immediately. Obviously the women will need to be cooperative and understand when that point arrives. After a few minutes, the erection should soften a little and lovemaking can resume.
This technique has obvious benefits. First, women will have plenty of time to reach their orgasm. Second, your orgasm will be delayed with a higher intensity than usual. Remember it is all about timing; just make sure to pull out when the time is right.
The “stop and start” method – in this method, the man learns to recognize the stage after which he cannot control ejaculation. The treatment method trains the person to remove the stimulus just before that stage is reached so that the urge to ejaculate is controlled. For example, when during masturbation, the man reaches a point just before ejaculating; he stops the stimulus until he starts losing the erection. Once the stage is past, he can resume the activity. This process is repeated again and again until the individual is able to delay ejaculation till the time he wishes.
The squeeze technique – in this method, the partner gently squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of ejaculation thereby “cancelling” the orgasm. This process can be continued until the couple decides mutually to reach the climax.
Desensitizing creams and gels are available in the market that reduce the sensitivity of the penis and help men reach climax later. Some men also feel that condoms reduce the sensations and in addition to providing safer sex, help them last longer. There are rubber penile constriction ring devices that can be placed at the base of the erect penis to give a firm grip and slight discomfort to the penis without injuring it. The dull unpleasant sensation will keep the mind off pleasant sensation that might trigger ejaculation and furthermore the constriction can keep the erection longer even if ejaculation has occurred. You can buy such devices in your friendly Pharmacy or local Medical Hall.
You can also experiment with sexual positions as some positions offer more control than others and may help to delay ejaculation. Answer for personal enquiry – Flavoured condoms
Question: What is the amount of flavour used on the condom? Will the flavour affect or dissolve the condom especially if kept long before use?
Answer by R&D Manager:
The flavour content is about 0.5% of the condom weight. Our flavoured condoms have a shelf life of 5 years which means that the condoms physical properties remain compliant to the ISO 4074 standard requirements for the shelf life which is 5 years from manufacturing date subject to the storage conditions as stated on the pack being complied with. Keeping the condoms in a cool environment is important as temperatures exceeding 35°C can deteriorate the condoms faster.
Answer for personal enquiry – Fun Pleasures
Question: For ESP Fun Pleasures Condoms (Chocolate, amaretto and caramel flavors), is that really safe to use during oral sex? Is the flavored lubricant poisonous?
Answer by R&D Manager: All the flavours and sweetener are food grade and in compliance to FEMA GRAS and 88/388 flavour legislations making them safe for consumption. The silicone lubricant is also of pharmaceutical grade. Therefore, the condoms are safe for oral sex.
Answer by R&D Manager: All the flavours and sweetener are food grade and in compliance to FEMA GRAS and 88/388 flavour legislations making them safe for consumption. The silicone lubricant is also of pharmaceutical grade. Therefore, the condoms are safe for oral sex.
Personal Pleasure
Question: Sometimes when I am riding a crowded public transport, I like to sort of bump or rub up against women. They usually just think that it is accidental. It gives me a little thrill, but I started thinking, is there anything wrong with this?
Answer: Bumping and groping have always been associated with sexual enjoyment and cheap thrills at other peoples discomfort and suffering. Apparently this has been a pastime for Japanese males when they enter crowded subway trains. Sometimes these men go to extreme groping like thumbing, fingering and tweaking their victims as they become bolder and this can be a dangerous pastime when they are caught in the act or being assaulted by the ‘victim’. I would advise against doing all these. This cheap thrill is not worth the embarrassment if one is caught! Keep your hand to yourselves whenever you are in a crowded bus. If you accidentally bump a person do apologise.Who knows, this might be a beginning of a beautiful friendship if you fancy that person.
Mad About Mirrors
Question: My partner and I like to look in the mirror while having sex. Is there something wrong with our fascination about our bodies? I told this to our friends and they all started laughing. We thought it was not necessarily common, but not abnormal.Answer: Visual stimulation can be a powerful tool to enhance sexual mood and arousal to both partners and it is not surprising that both partners can get a real turn on when they are able to see their own bodies in action in the raw. There is nothing abnormal or unusual about this fascination. The mirror might just be the answer to your interest in self voyeurism which is harmless because it involves you and your partner looking at your selves in the raw form, and not looking at others, which can be against the law.
Bladder Blues
Question: I am a married woman whose husband is often away on extended trips. It seems like every time I have sex after a break I get a urinary tract or bladder infection. What causes this, and what can I do to prevent it? My doctor keeps prescribing antibiotics which work, but can I do anything to prevent it in the first place?
Answer: Honeymoon cystitis gets it name because the frequency of urination and pain and discomfort that follows with the urination occurs after each episode of sexual intercourse. The inflammation of the base of the bladder is attributed to the ascending infection from the inflamed pee hole which occurs during rapid penile thrust to that area. In most cases the episode of cystitis usually disappears as the pee hole area is more resilient to the penile assault. In case where sexual intercourse is not frequent, the pee hole is is no longer resilient and can get inflamed and cause ascending infection that may flare up as a urinary tract infection. In such event urinary antibiotics are usually prescribed by the doctor. There were some suggestions that may remedy this incessant problem. One is to pee after each episode of love making. This might interfere with the pooling of semen in the vaginal pool, for the purpose of planning for a baby. Another way is to ensure that penile trust is not directed to the pee hole, in other words to change position or assume a position that may prevent direct assault of the penis to the pee hole area.
Answer: Honeymoon cystitis gets it name because the frequency of urination and pain and discomfort that follows with the urination occurs after each episode of sexual intercourse. The inflammation of the base of the bladder is attributed to the ascending infection from the inflamed pee hole which occurs during rapid penile thrust to that area. In most cases the episode of cystitis usually disappears as the pee hole area is more resilient to the penile assault. In case where sexual intercourse is not frequent, the pee hole is is no longer resilient and can get inflamed and cause ascending infection that may flare up as a urinary tract infection. In such event urinary antibiotics are usually prescribed by the doctor. There were some suggestions that may remedy this incessant problem. One is to pee after each episode of love making. This might interfere with the pooling of semen in the vaginal pool, for the purpose of planning for a baby. Another way is to ensure that penile trust is not directed to the pee hole, in other words to change position or assume a position that may prevent direct assault of the penis to the pee hole area.
Male Fertility
Question: At what age can a male impregnate a female? Can he ever be too young or too old?
Answer: As long as the male child is able to ejaculate and produce semen that contains sperm, he is able to sire a child with any reproductive female. As long as the sperm cell is still available in the semen, a man of any age, however old his age may be will be able to impregnate any women in the reproductive age group. In a rare case of precocious puberty in males where signs of puberty appears before the age of 8,there is testicular enlargement as well as penile enlargement and penile emission do contains sperm cells. Normal puberty in boys can occur as early as 9 years old and if the boy is able to ejaculate and the semen contains sperm cells, he has the potential of being a father with any women in the reproductive age group.
Answer: As long as the male child is able to ejaculate and produce semen that contains sperm, he is able to sire a child with any reproductive female. As long as the sperm cell is still available in the semen, a man of any age, however old his age may be will be able to impregnate any women in the reproductive age group. In a rare case of precocious puberty in males where signs of puberty appears before the age of 8,there is testicular enlargement as well as penile enlargement and penile emission do contains sperm cells. Normal puberty in boys can occur as early as 9 years old and if the boy is able to ejaculate and the semen contains sperm cells, he has the potential of being a father with any women in the reproductive age group.
HIV/AIDS – Possible through tattoo?
Question: Is the chance of getting HIV/AIDS through tattoo or piercing needles high? Will I get it if I go for body piercing?
Answer: It’s an in thing to get a body pierce or tattooing. More so if one were to get the thrill to show off. However if one were to get tattoos or body piercings, one need to find an artist who uses only new, clean needles and safe tools as a preventive measure from contracting HIV/AIDS.
Note on HIV/AIDS:
Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) is a medical condition, caused by human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). HIV is a virus and can damage the human immune system. Most commonly, HIV infection is spread by having sex, sharing needles and syringes with someone infected with HIV and being exposed (fetus or infant) to HIV before or during birth or through breast feeding. HIV is transmitted through direct contact of a mucous membrane or the bloodstream with a bodily fluid containing HIV, such as blood, semen, vaginal fluid, pre-seminal fluid, and breast milk.
Answer: It’s an in thing to get a body pierce or tattooing. More so if one were to get the thrill to show off. However if one were to get tattoos or body piercings, one need to find an artist who uses only new, clean needles and safe tools as a preventive measure from contracting HIV/AIDS.
Note on HIV/AIDS:
Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) is a medical condition, caused by human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). HIV is a virus and can damage the human immune system. Most commonly, HIV infection is spread by having sex, sharing needles and syringes with someone infected with HIV and being exposed (fetus or infant) to HIV before or during birth or through breast feeding. HIV is transmitted through direct contact of a mucous membrane or the bloodstream with a bodily fluid containing HIV, such as blood, semen, vaginal fluid, pre-seminal fluid, and breast milk.