Question: Sometimes when I am riding a crowded public transport, I like to sort of bump or rub up against women. They usually just think that it is accidental. It gives me a little thrill, but I started thinking, is there anything wrong with this? Answer: Bumping and groping have always been associated with sexual enjoyment and cheap thrills at other peoples discomfort and suffering. Apparently this has been a pastime for Japanese males when they enter crowded subway trains. Sometimes these men go to extreme groping like thumbing, fingering and tweaking their victims as they become bolder and this can be a dangerous pastime when they are caught in the act or being assaulted by the ‘victim’. I would advise against doing all these. This cheap thrill is not worth the embarrassment if one is caught! Keep your hand to yourselves whenever you are in a crowded bus. If you accidentally bump a person do apologise.Who knows, this might be a beginning of a beautiful friendship if you fancy that person.
Question: My partner and I like to look in the mirror while having sex. Is there something wrong with our fascination about our bodies? I told this to our friends and they all started laughing. We thought it was not necessarily common, but not abnormal. Answer: Visual stimulation can be a powerful tool to enhance sexual mood and arousal to both partners and it is not surprising that both partners can get a real turn on when they are able to see their own bodies in action in the raw. There is nothing abnormal or unusual about this fascination. The mirror might just be the answer to your interest in self voyeurism which is harmless because it involves you and your partner looking at your selves in the raw form, and not looking at others, which can be against the law.
Question: I am a married woman whose husband is often away on extended trips. It seems like every time I have sex after a break I get a urinary tract or bladder infection. What causes this, and what can I do to prevent it? My doctor keeps prescribing antibiotics which work, but can I do anything to prevent it in the first place?
Answer: Honeymoon cystitis gets it name because the frequency of urination and pain and discomfort that follows with the urination occurs after each episode of sexual intercourse. The inflammation of the base of the bladder is attributed to the ascending infection from the inflamed pee hole which occurs during rapid penile thrust to that area. In most cases the episode of cystitis usually disappears as the pee hole area is more resilient to the penile assault. In case where sexual intercourse is not frequent, the pee hole is is no longer resilient and can get inflamed and cause ascending infection that may flare up as a urinary tract infection. In such event urinary antibiotics are usually prescribed by the doctor. There were some suggestions that may remedy this incessant problem. One is to pee after each episode of love making. This might interfere with the pooling of semen in the vaginal pool, for the purpose of planning for a baby. Another way is to ensure that penile trust is not directed to the pee hole, in other words to change position or assume a position that may prevent direct assault of the penis to the pee hole area.
Question: At what age can a male impregnate a female? Can he ever be too young or too old? Answer: As long as the male child is able to ejaculate and produce semen that contains sperm, he is able to sire a child with any reproductive female. As long as the sperm cell is still available in the semen, a man of any age, however old his age may be will be able to impregnate any women in the reproductive age group. In a rare case of precocious puberty in males where signs of puberty appears before the age of 8,there is testicular enlargement as well as penile enlargement and penile emission do contains sperm cells. Normal puberty in boys can occur as early as 9 years old and if the boy is able to ejaculate and the semen contains sperm cells, he has the potential of being a father with any women in the reproductive age group.
Question: Is the chance of getting HIV/AIDS through tattoo or piercing needles high? Will I get it if I go for body piercing? Answer: It’s an in thing to get a body pierce or tattooing. More so if one were to get the thrill to show off. However if one were to get tattoos or body piercings, one need to find an artist who uses only new, clean needles and safe tools as a preventive measure from contracting HIV/AIDS. Note on HIV/AIDS:
Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) is a medical condition, caused by human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). HIV is a virus and can damage the human immune system. Most commonly, HIV infection is spread by having sex, sharing needles and syringes with someone infected with HIV and being exposed (fetus or infant) to HIV before or during birth or through breast feeding. HIV is transmitted through direct contact of a mucous membrane or the bloodstream with a bodily fluid containing HIV, such as blood, semen, vaginal fluid, pre-seminal fluid, and breast milk.
Question: Dr, I hope you can advice me on my problem. I usually experience a dull pain in the lower part of my stomach after sex. This kind of ruins the pleasure of sex for me. Is this normal? What do you think might be the cause? Is there any medication or herbs I can take to make it go away? I’m 28. Answer: Sexual intercourse usually provides much pleasure to both parties if they are up to it or otherwise if they do it just for the sake of fulfilling their responsibilities. If this occurs then the act will not be pleasurable, there will not be any release of beta endorphin that is the natural pain reliever and the partner that is not actually enjoying it will experience all sorts of pain and discomfort that can be brought about by the strain muscles, the strain ligaments, the back ache and the abdominal ache or pain. If sexual intercourse has been pleasurable for the individual and if he is a guy, then the discomfort can be due to muscle cramp or movement of gas which is dislodged during active physical movement. Rarely the bladder gives problem. If the individual is a woman, the lower abdominal discomfort can be due to mild uterine and tubal contraction triggered by hormone oxytocin which is released by the anterior pituitary gland brought by orgasm. Rarely the discomfort is due to bladder. Other causes include pelvic adhesions due to old pelvic infection or endometriosis. It is wise for the individual who has this disturbing post coital lower abdominal discomfort to seek professional help. The individual needs to be examined and only after the examination will the doctor is in a position to provide some form of remedy.
When it comes to pleasure or protection, sex myths are common. Here are a few fallacies when it comes to conception or Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD): MYTH: You can’t get pregnant if a man “pulls out” before he ejaculates.TRUTH: While sperm is concentrated in semen (what he expels when he ejaculates), sperm can still be present in seminal fluid – the clear, sticky substance released continuously from first moments of arousal. Of the millions of sperm present during ejaculation, it only takes one to become pregnant. And while a man may have every intention of “pulling out” at the proper moment (coitus interruptus), the heat of the moment can sometimes be too overwhelming to time it right. Semen and other fluids can also carry STDs. MYTH: You can’t get pregnant during your period.TRUTH: Your period is a function of expelling unfertilised eggs; however, there is a chance that one could remain (that’s all it takes) at this point in your menstrual cycle. What’s more, sperm can survive for up to seven days (on average, three) in the female reproductive tract. You are also very prone to conceive at the end of your cycle (just prior to your period) when production of eggs is at its highest. MYTH: You can’t get pregnant having sex standing up or while in the shower or bath.TRUTH: Sex without protection or contraception in any position, anywhere, anytime can result in pregnancy. Sperm migrate towards the ovaries, irrespective of gravity. Unprotected sex also increases the risk of an STD infection. MYTH: You don’t need a condom for oral sex. TRUTH: A dangerous myth, especially in these times of STDs. Used correctly, a condom protects against infection during sex, whether oral, anal or vaginal. In the case of oral sex, ESP Fun Pleasures Condoms (chocolate, amaretto and caramel flavors) can sweeten the experience as well as making it more fun. MYTH: Condoms take away pleasure.TRUTH: With significant advancements in the making of condoms over the past few years, the sexual experience can, in fact, be heightened by using one. ESP Skin Pleasures Condoms have been reported as “practically invisible” by users and do not hamper sexual pleasure. ESP Xtra Pleasures Condoms are reported by both men and women to enhance intercourse with even greater stimulation.
If a partner refuses to wear a condom, think carefully before consent, Sexually Transmitted Diseases(STD) can last a lifetime.
Position 1: The Sensational Straddle Make the most of a cozy embrace with this floor position that’s sure to send sparks through both of you. Sitting face-to-face, wrap your legs around each other (usually easier for the woman to bring her legs up around her partner’s hips) and slowly bring yourselves closer and closer. While you’re moving towards union, this is a great time to lavish each other with intimate touching, caressing – even feeding. Steady eye contact, as well, can add to excitement.
It’s exciting to go beyond the ‘basic moves’ of sexual positions. Here are a few ways to find new levels of sensitivity and spontaneity with different positions for intercourse.
This position is one of the best for turning a condom into a real sexual stimulant. With both partners having their genitals within easy reach, unrolling the condom over his penis can be an erotic, stimulating experience. Meanwhile, he can use his fingers to explore (and excite!) inside of her.
Once together, a gentle rocking will set the rhythm. Or for more acrobatic moves, try holding on to each other’s arms and lean as far back as you’re able. The trick is not to bounce, but to concentrate on the intense pleasure of your connection.Position 2: All things being equal (side-to-side)
For a warm, romantic angle on in-bed intimacy, nothing compares to lying side-to-side facing each other. Not only is this a cosy way to go heavy on the kisses and passionate embraces, it’s probably the most relaxed position, with no pressure from being on top or on bottom. Just take care not to pin down arms. Use them freely instead for stroking every inch of your partner. The woman should slide her top leg over the man’s hips, helping guide and time his entry. The man is also in the perfect position to fondle breasts as well as keep her close and tight.
While not one of the more athletic positions, lying together certainly scores points for being ‘up close and personal.’ It delivers the greatest feeling of blissful togetherness and sharing. And no matter how vigorous you are, sexual intercourse actually burns as many calories (about 200) as running for 30 minutes! Not a bad way to stay fit, eh?
Position 3: Standing Room Only
Ever thought of sexual possibilities on the fly? In our go-go-go days, we often end up too tired at night to enjoy a good sexual encounter -so why leave it to after dark? Consider spontaneous sex out of the bedroom, especially once you’ve mastered the art of sex standing up. There are endless ways and places to practice this challenging position!
The spontaneity of lifting a skirt and inviting a partner ‘in’ is one of the most arousing ways to initiate fast-and-furious sex. When standing, it’s likely the man will have to bend his knees to meet the height of his partner or be able to lift her gently around the buttocks. An alternative is to try standing at various heights on stairs (or even phone books) to find the perfect fit. Of course, closed in cubicles (like airplane lavatories) can help a woman prop herself against tight walls. Any strong back support makes it easier for her to slide down for oral sex or to sensually apply a flavoured condom with her mouth, rolling it on gently with her fingers. Even a sturdy tree on a bush walk is great support for this position (and beats groping on the ground)!
Position 4: Tables & Chairs
Props can help initiate very interesting positions, especially for spontaneous sex. Using a sturdy table, chair or lounge, for example (where the woman sits on the edge), provides a unique height for entry either standing or kneeling. What’s more, for extra sensation the woman can wrap her legs around her partner at various angles to take equal part in the lift and thrust. This is often easier when hands are steadied on the table or chair, supporting her weight and strength. She’s also in a perfect position to help apply a condom, making it part of sensual foreplay and giving it full attention.
Let your imagination run wild trying various heights that create different stimulation. Add a whole new meaning to ‘clearing the table after dinner’ or discover the power of the spin cycle by straddling the washing machine (timing’s important for this one!). And in the lounge room, why just lie on the lounge when ‘living on the edge’ adds more sexual spice. Go ahead and experiment with your furniture!
Position 5: The Classic
Traditional love-making is usually comfortable in the classic ‘missionary position’ – where a couple is lying down face to face, with the person taking the dominant position on top. ‘Dominant’ here means the person on top tends to control more of the action and the degree of stimulation. Which is not to say the person lying down gets the shaft (so to speak) but in fact can play an enthralling part of receiving and returning pleasure.
Advantages of this classic position are that it allows both partners to keep intimate eye-to-eye contact; it makes kissing and nuzzling easy; and it works both ways! While typically a man may be on top, extra arousal can come from the woman taking the upper spot and trying new gyrations and movements to reach ecstatic heights. What’s more, with the woman on top, applying a condom is more smoothly integrated into love-making -with ribbed condoms often being the style of choice for this position.
000 BC
King Minosof Crete used a fish bladder to protect himself from the risks of sexual pleasure.
000 BC
Ancient Egyptians used a linen sheath for protection against
00 -200 AD
Earliest evidence of condom use in Europe is from cave paintingsin Combarelles, France.
1500´s
First known published description and trials regarding prophylactic condom use was recorded in Italy. Gabrielle Fallopiusconducted condom trials with1,100 men, none of whom became infected with Syphilis. This discovery led to condoms being used for pregnancyprevention.In the late 1500s the first spermicideon a condom was used. The linen sheath was soaked in a chemical solution and then dried prior to use.
700´s
New condoms made of animal intestines are sold. However, these condoms were quite expensive leading to the reuse of the condom. The condom was described as “an armor against pleasure” and “a cobweb against infection.”
844
Goodyear and Hancock began to mass produce condoms made out of vulcanized rubber. Vulcanization is a process which turns crude rubber intoa strong elastic material.
861
The first advertisement for condoms was published in The New York Times for “Dr. Power´s French Preventatives.”
873
The Comstock Law, named after Anthony Comstock, was passed making the advertising of birth control illegal. Additionally, the postal service was able to confiscate condoms sold in the mail.
880´s
The first latex condom was produced.
930′s
Latex condoms were now in widespread use. In the United States 1.5 million condoms were being produced each day.
980´s
A Japanese brand, Kimono, entered the market with a thinner and well lubricated condom. The advertisements emphasized pleasure as well as protection.
990´s
The first polyurethane condom became available along with a large assortment of different condom variants.
Question: Sometimes when I am riding a crowded public transport, I like to sort of bump or rub up against women. They usually just think that it is accidental. It gives me a little thrill, but I started thinking, is there anything wrong with this?
