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How old is too old for sex?

Question:
I am 27, and I am still virgin. When i masturbate, I don’t really feel discharge (natural lubricant) coming out from vagina, and because of this, I don’t dare to have sex with my boy friend. Is it because my age or because I am still a virgin? if really no discharge, how to overcome it? Can it be cure?

Answer:
You will probably notice that there is lots of saliva when you talk and yet the saliva does not dribble out of our mouth! Similarly, the vagina canal. No doubt when you masturbate by touching or rubbing your external genital organ and climax you will probably notice only the small area between your small lips become moist. This is because of the secretions of the vestibular glands. If you were to introduce your finger inside your vagina you will feel the lubrication at the entrance which is the secretion from the Bartholin glands. If you probe further and stimulate the upper part of the vagina you might hit the G-Spot and if you climax you would feel the copious secretions from there. So start exploring yourself and experience all these.

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Question:
is there something wrong with me? Because every time I come home from work I run to my bedroom and jump on my husband to have sex with him.

Answer:
You have a normal sexual desire and you are expressing in the proper way, that is with the person you love and are committed to. Unlike some other who are extremely randy and horney and whose sexual desire is just to much to be handled by one person, the so called hypersex individual. This type of person, the layman term used is nymphomaniac, is never satisfied. The clinical conditions that include the concept of high levels of sexual desire and/or activity are hypersexuality and sexual addiction or compulsivity. The central features of these disorders are that sexual activity is an insatiable need, often interfering with other areas of everyday functioning; sex is impersonal, with no emotional intimacy; and despite frequent orgasms, sexual activity is generally not satisfying.

I am sure your husband is enjoying all the attention you are giving him and he will not be in any mood to stray!

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Question:
Why is that whenever I have sex with my boy friend, I don’t really feel that excitement, even when penis already went into my vagina, I don’t really feel there is something in there. I will only get orgasm when he touches my clitoris. We have sex for the past 3 months, my boy friend has experienced with his ex-es, but they were all fine. Why is that I am different? Furthermore, when I finished my period, I always feel itchiness and pain down there, why? Is it because of sanitary pads? I always put one layer of tissue paper on top of the sanitary pads, and always change sanitary pads, why is that so?

Answer:
Most women climax when their clitoris is stimulated and this is because it contains an extensive network of nerves. Some women who are conscious of their vagina might be able to experience vaginal climax when a certain area of the vagina gets stimulated. This area is concentrated in the upper portion of the vagina and about 2-4cm from the entrance of the vaginal entrance, an area known as the G-Spot or the AFE Zone. You can try to locate this spot by hooking your middle finger to that area and do a digital massage. You will experience a sudden urge to pass urine when you reach the spot. Of course the urge to pass urine is just a feeling that you will get when that spot is stimulated and if you continue the stimulation you might even ‘ejaculate’ and not pee! Regarding pain and itchiness of the vulva (the female external genital organs), it might be due to dryness or skin contact with the pad or both. You can apply some moisturizer before you put the pad. If there is pain it might indicate inflammation. If this persist you need to see your doctor because you might be suffering from vulvitis ( inflammation of the vulva) I would recommend that you apply a skin protectant formula recommended for vulva regularly, after bath.

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Questions:
I am 23 this year, recently having premature ejaculation problem. When I was 21, I did circumcision. I don’t know I have this problem, I used to penetrate for about 7-10 minutes before ejaculation, but now is only 2-3 minutes. How am I supposed to do?

Answer:
You have rapid ejaculation. It means that the sensation and excitement that you achieved through the tip of your erect penis during sexual intercourse is beyond your control and therefore you ejaculate. Maybe the pelvic trust you did were too intense and rapid that the sensation you received at the tip of your penis were more intense than at the time you were not circumcised, that’s what make you lose control. Maybe you have to do it slow and this will give you better control. This rapid ejaculation is not due to circumcision. You just need to control your pelvic trusting within your control! Of course if this problem persists after doing all that, then you need to see your family doctor for consultation.

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Question:
My god brother’s penis curls for about one year already. In 2006, his penis was absolutely normal, but out of a sudden, it became curls to the left side;

1) Why that penis is will curl suddenly?
2) How to cure?
3) Is it because of masturbation?
4) Does it help by massaging?

Answer:
Penis does not curl but bends. If the bending is severe then lovemaking would be difficult. If the bend is mild and can me straightened when it is erect, then it is possible to perform lovemaking with the female partner. However in a condition known as Peyronie’s disease, the bending of the penis become progressively severe over time. This is because of the formation of plaque or hardening of the thick covering of the penis that become hardened for reasons unknown. I would advise your god brother to seek professional help rather than trying to handle this problem on his own. Massaging his penis might worsen the condition!

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