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Itchiness

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

Question:
I have itchiness in my external genital since I was a kid and up to now, usually I feel more itchy when I have my period and wear sanitary napkin.
Is it possible I have STD? If not why do I experience it? I hope you could help me with this problem.

 

Answer:
The condition you are suffering from is known as pruritus vulva or itching vulva. This is a common skin condition of the vulva or the female external genitalia which occur whenever the skin is dry or exposed to irritation. When you are having your period your female hormone estrogen is very low and this can reduce production of natural moisture of the vulva skin and cause dryness. Using the pad which probably might contain some preparation can cause some irritation and itchiness. So also the content of the menstrual flow that can also irritate the external skin. I would suggest that you apply some moisturizer (like the Her Genicare Cream) to your vulva every time before you put the pad or after bath. The moisturizer can make the skin become supple and soft and will reduce dryness and thus no itching. In addition you may also want to try using the ESP Her V-Exclusive wash which being a 100% natural wash can help your condition. Sometime itchiness of the vulva can be caused by yeast infection. It is common for women to get this infection in the vagina through contamination from the anus or the urethra and when the discharge from the vagina is exposed to the vulva skin, the skin become infected, inflamed and itches. You can also get yeast infection from your sexual partner. Then this transmission is through sexual intercourse and known as Sexually Transmitted Disease. If the itchiness persists even after using the moisturizer, then you have to see a doctor. Preferably a skin doctor.

 

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PC Muscle

Friday, March 5th, 2010

Original Question:
Ok, this is really strange. As I have gradually gotten older, I have totally lost my sex drive. I know about Viagra and other enhancements, but this isn’t about that.
I noticed today when I masturbated, that my penis is bent downwards.
I don’t think I have that disease that starts with a P, no obvious fibrous tissue growth and no trauma.
I don’t masturbate as much as I used to at least once or twice a day. Now, more like once or twice a month.
But this curve downwards is enough to make me notice. I do have a piercing and I like tight underwear which does make my penis bend down.
But I have had my piercing for years and I have always worn tight underwear. I need the support. I am larger than most guys and it just feels better.
I was thinking that since I don’t exercise it and keep it curled up in my pants, could this be the reason it’s starting to bed? And can I straighten it back out? I’m freaked out big time.

 

Answer:
There is this saying ‘If you don’t use you lose’. That goes with your penis. All these while you use it regularly like you mentioned, once or twice a day. This is not happening now and that is why your erection is not as firm as before. That same thing happens to your pelvic floor muscles that buck up your penis during erection. If that muscle is weak, it cannot lift up your penis. That’s why your penis appears bent during erection. There are other factors though with regards to the bending or curving downwards of your erect penis. You wear tight underwear which makes your penis bent down. This is ‘parking’ issue. If you park your penis upwards, then during erection it remains up! Otherwise it will remain humble as it is happening now. You also mentioned that you are large. The gravitational pull will not spare your penis during erection! The pierce you did to your penis does not cause the bend unless you put weights! There you are. The cat is out of the bag. You need to work on your pelvic floor by doing the Kegel Exercise.

 

(If you are a man, strengthening the PC muscle can help you develop firmer erection and greater ejaculation control. To identify that PC Muscle: Imagine you are urinating. Now squeeze the muscles you would as if you were cutting off the flow of urine. Those are your PC muscles. Now let go and try it again. You are contracting the anterior or frontal part of the PC muscle. Now squeeze your muscles as if you were trying to prevent yourself from passing gas — this is the posterior part of the PC loop. We are all pretty much, “tight asses”–we hold too much tension in these muscles. The challenge is to learn to relax these muscles at will. Now do the posterior squeezes rapidly five times in a row. Try to be conscious of relaxing your anus after every squeeze. Try not to squeeze your thighs, butt or abs–just the PC. You can do basic PC muscle Kegels pretty much anywhere, at work, in traffic, reading the Internet).You can get more details of this exercise in any website. However don’t expect miracles. You will probably see some improvement. But still age is catching up!

 

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What could be causing this discomfort?

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Question: When I have intercourse with my boyfriend and if I’m on top I get this intense feeling in what seems like my lower abdomen. Its not painful, its just a discomfort. I don’t react to it positively but I don’t actually experience pain. Then after intercourse the very slight discomfort continues for maybe a few hours. What could be causing this discomfort?

 

Answer:

The woman on-top position in lovemaking has always been a choice for many women to take a dominant role in sex. It is also a position for deeper penetration. From your description of that ‘intense feeling in the lower abdomen’ and that the feeling dragged on for some more hours, looks like you are not prepared of the deeper penetration that you may get from this position. You should be aware that in the “woman on-top position”, it is the woman, who controls the depth of penetration and not your partner, unless of course he pushes his long penis upwards as you sink your vagina downwards. If this happens you will surely feel the discomfort like your abdomen is  being pounded, like a punch in your stomach as the tip of his penis hits the neck of your womb. That will surely stimulate your 10th cranial nerve called the Vagus Nerve and the dull discomfort that lingers is typical of that effect. Sometimes pushing the uterus upwards can cause this so called vagus response or vagus reflex. The simptoms may include a fainting feeling as well when the pulse rate and blood pressure reduce suddenly. However this vagus reflex is harmless but can be a deterrent though for future experimentations in woman on-top position. I would suggest you continue with the woman on- top position and this time you do a rocking or grinding movement so that you can get better stimulation of your clitoris and the perinum. You can also do the woman on top position with your back facing your partner to get better stimulation of the perineum. If you want a tighter fit, do keep your legs inside your partner’s thighs and you can rock back and forth to feel your partner’s penis being squeezed by your vagina for the most mind blowing orgasm and intimacy ever; not to mention the fun your partner will have viewing your front and rear in the best angle!

 

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what way we have to flow but got a menses between 23 to 25 days every month?

Monday, December 28th, 2009

Question:
Hi I was married girl 10 month over for a time being. I did not pregnant in this month for my I got a timing on 17th of November in sex. what way we have to flow but got a menses between 23 to 25 days every month. I got a menses give my some solution.

 

Answer:
Looks like you and your partner can’t wait to start a family. This is a good sign considering many couples nowadays prefer to wait. It is fine to wait for the right time provided the couples are young, in their mid twenties. If you are in your late twenties or older, then you and your husband need to have your first child fast. So you are in the right track. Probably the first thing you need to do is to plan to have regular lovemaking around your fertile period. In fact regular lovemaking increases your chances of pregnancy. If your cycle is regular and occur every month, then you will notice the tell tale sign of fertility, namely the appearance of clear mucous from your vagina, a few days after your menses are over. You might feel a tinge of pain just below your umbilicus a few days after the appearance of the mucus that usually signifies ovulation or release of your egg. If you plan to have babies,you need to avoid using vaginal lubricant during lovemaking and avoid washing your vagina after intercourse.To avoid overflow of semen from your vagina,your husband can tuck a small cushion below your lower back. You can also see a family practitioner for pregnancy counseling and he or she can give you lots of tips regarding planning a pregnancy. If bay a year nothing happen. Then you and your husband need to go for a fertility workup. You can see your family practitioner first before you see a fertility specialist.

 

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When Koro comes knocking at your door

Monday, September 14th, 2009

Imagine the wedding night scene when the couples were all geared up to do the thing when all of a sudden the woman screaming and clutching the precious pole trying to keep it from shrinking or instead of the wife screaming the husband fuming over the tight va…. like as though it is disappearing and the inverted nipples of the partner. Yes! that is what happens when Koro comes knocking at your door.

 

Koro or otherwise known as Genital Retraction Syndrome (GRS), generally considered a culture-specific syndrome is a condition in which an individual is overcome with the belief that his/her external genitalia , in females, the vagina ,diminishing in dimensions and nipples are retracting into the body and breasts shrinking, or in some male cases, the penis and testicles may be pulled into the body or disappear. A penis panic like the scenerio describes earlier which of course if it occures in a huge male population may cause a mass hysteria of zombie looking males all clutching their diminuitive privates, least they disappear and cause the death of their owners.Penis panics have occurred around the world, most notably in Africa and Asia. Local beliefs assert that such syndromes are often fatal.

 

Genital retraction syndrome in Southeast Asia is known as Koro, which apparently comes from a chinese term Shook yang (suo yang, 縮陽), although no credible occurrence of such a phenomenon has ever been recorded there.It is becoming increasingly clear that these forms of mass-hysteria are more common than previously thought.

 

The phenomenon is often, but not always, associated with occult belief, such as witchcraft. These panics frequently, but not exclusively, occur in places where access to education—particularly in science and human biology—is limited, or otherwise restricted (for example, when government policies restrict such education). The term “Koro” which means “head of the turtle” in Malay is believed to be a culture-bound syndrome, is similar to penis panics in various cultures. Koro most commonly describes the extreme fear that the penis is retracting into the body, brought about by some supernatural powers and that such retraction will bring about death. Koro also tends to reflect a certain xenophobia among some groups, whereby foreigners are often blamed as the ones behind the “attacks”.

 

Although Koro goes back to ancient times, beliefs have evolved to better suit modernity. Whereas in the past the causes were usually identified as supernatural, e.g. sorcery, a recent Koro episode in Northern Thailand placed the blame on Vietnamese Communist agents who supposedly put chemicals in the water supply.Sufferers may resort to extreme physical measures to prevent the believed retraction of the penis. As well as affecting individuals, Koro-like syndromes can often occur in an outbreak of mass hysteria.Probably the best treatise ever decribed about this unique fenomena of koro is the details written by Robert E.Barthelomew in the book Little Green Men, Meowing Nuns and Head-Hunting Panics: A Study of Mass Psychogenic Illness and Social Delusion , and the excerpts goes like this, “In parts of Asia, entire regions are occasionally overwhelmed by terror-stricken men who believe that their penises are shriveling up or retracting into their bodies, whereupon they will die. Those affected often place clamps or strings onto the precious organs or have family members hold the penis in relays until an appropriate treatment is obtained, often from traditional healers. … Episodes can endure for weeks or months and affect thousands. Psychiatrists are divided as to the cause of these imaginary scares. Some believe that it is a form of group psychosis triggered by stress, while others view it as a mass hysteria. … While these episodes may appear humorous to Westerners, they offer a valuable lesson because they show how vulnerable we all are to mass delusion.”

 

The man at left is suffering from an acute case of koro, or genital retraction syndrome (GRS) during the 1985 epidemic in Guangdong, China. (Photo courtesy R.E. Bartholomew)

 

Koro most commonly strikes men, but rare cases are known to involve women and the fear that either their external genital or nipples are retracting into the body.

 

Aside from the emotional distress, Koro by itself is not physically harmful, and no actual retraction takes place. Injuries have occurred when stricken men have resorted to apparatus such as needles, hooks, fishing line, and shoe strings, to prevent the disappearance of their penises.
An epidemic struck Singapore in 1967, resulting in thousands of reported cases. Government and medical officials alleviated the outbreak only by a massive campaign to reassure men of the anatomical impossibility of retraction together with a media blackout on the spread of the condition.
Koro has been successfully treated with a course of alprazolam and imipramine (which are psychiatric drugs, the former used to treat anxiety disorders).

 

Therefore folks do not be alarmed.There will be no knocking at your door when you are doing the thing.If you have problems do not go to the shamans or the dukuns.Do see your favourite doctor.Everything will be back in place.

 

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MEN NO PAUSE

Thursday, September 3rd, 2009

I suppose the label Men No Pause will be the choicest of labels most men after 50 would want to put on their doors when they meet friends of similar ages to brag about their colorful lives, their women conquest, the fast cars they have and the overseas trips they made. Of course there will be no mention of failing health or failing memory or failing strength, everything is fine if not better as though age freeze for them. Their better halves of course will have their own sessions. They are very much down to earth as they know age has caught up with them and they will not hesitate to be very open about their failing health, their ailing body and the number of trips they have to make to see their personal doctors and the number of trips they have to make to see their personal beautician for make over’s.

 

Women of all ages are aware of the term menopause unlike men who only know that men no pause. In fact there is this saying that life begins at 40 for men! That implies that before 40 they are children or teenager. That’s not surprising when you can see middle age men before 40 still hold on their membership in Youth Clubs and Youth Section of political parties!

 

Men as women do go through aging process or rather they pass through the golden year that is a real challenge to their health. In women their reproductive function ceased as they menopause. The female hormones wane dramatically following symptoms suggestive of emergence of menopause like flushes, mood swings, panic attacks, insomnia, palpitation, anxiety, loss of libido and depression. Other than that there is this tendency of contracting some chronic illness like hypertension, diabetes, coronary diseases etc. which is part of aging.

 

With regard to fertility, similar changes are taking place in the males as well. After 50, their fertility wanes but not ceased. That’s probably the reason why they keep trying to knock down young women even their artilleries are in bad shape. They produce less sperms with poor quality and started to have problems with their sexual prowess and especially if they contract diabetes, hypertension, hypercholesterolemia and coronary diseases. More than a third of them will have prostate problems, like enlarged prostate that might have a negative influence in their sexual function because of frequency in passing urine.

 

Having low testosterone does not just affect their libido. Testosterone is important for men. It is this elixir that gives them the male characteristics, the so called macho and virility. The very same hormone gives them the strength, the lean body mass, the muscle bulk, the bone strength, the heat and of course the libido. It is this hormone that maintains sperm production and sensitizes the sex center to respond to sexual desire. Just imagine what will happen if that very same hormone level dwindles down. This situation is called Andropause and sometime is also known as male menopause. You see a pathetic looking male with no sting. He sometimes look frail, no muscle, only bones and skin. He may appear grumpy and quarrelsome. He will have similar symptoms as seen in menopausal women like flushes, night sweats, insomnia, loss of memory, palpitations and specifically in men loss of nocturnal erections and looking fatigue. If this is something that is welcoming to him then it’s alright.

 

No men would want to be in that state, looking hopeless and helpless.
Like menopause, Andropause is now a recognized health issue in men. Men with ‘late onset hypogonadism’ or LOH as it is also being known as can be treated by Testosterone Replacement Therapy. Before testosteone is instituted, the aging male need to go for a medical assessment to evaluate his health status. His medical condition if any need to be treated. His prostate will be evaluated prior to providing him testosterone therapy. Since this therapy can be for life time, he needs to come for regular follow-up to monitor his prostate and general health. There is also alternative therapy in the form of herbal supplementation. Certain herbs like Tribulus terrestis and Eurycoma longifolia or Tongkat Ali have been found to stimulate the adrenals and testicles in producing natural testosterone. The water soluble extract have been found to be useful with less side effects. If he has problems with his prowess, medication that can improve blood flow to his genital organs can help, if the medication is suitable for him.

 

Men need not stay behind and suffer in silent. They need to emulate their better halves in opening up and take charge of their health. Putting the Men No Pause sign will not help. The signage should be Men Do Pause.

 

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