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Question:
I’m worried because my new partner says he wants to have oral sex on me, but I’m concerned and embarrassed about my piles. Do you think he’ll be disgusted? What can I do about them?

Answer:
When men decide to go down, they are interested in lashing their tongues on their partners’ clitorises and the upper part of the vulva. It is unlikely they lash their tongues on the lower vulva which is closer to the anus if they are freakish to the anus. Even if they do so it is unlikely they notice the odd looking anus or the piles if the piles are protruded. If the piles are not that prominent it will not be noticeable. If you are not comfortable to give in do inform him that you may want sometime to think about giving him the permission to go down on you. I am sure he will respect your wishes. During that time you can get treatment for your piles.

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Question:
Dr, I’m a woman, happily married for 4 years and have a wonderful & active sex life.
So far, I don’t have problem with my sex health since 2 weeks ago.
As a normal woman, I don’t have problem with my vaginal discharge/white discharge.  But since 2 weeks ago, the color & quantity change. From pure white to yellowish or almost greenish.
I haven’t seek any help, but it’s really a disturbance.
Need your kind advice on this matter.

Answer:
Glands inside your vagina and cervix make small amounts of fluid. This fluid flows out of the vagina each day, carrying out old cells that have lined the vagina. This is your body’s way of keeping your vagina healthy and clean. The discharge is usually clear or milky and doesn’t smell bad.
The color and thickness of the discharge change with your monthly cycle. The discharge is thicker when you ovulate (when one of your ovaries releases an egg), when you breastfeed or when you’re sexually excited. Changes that may signal a problem include an increase in the amount of discharge, a change in the color or smell of the discharge, and irritation, itchiness or burning in or around your vagina. This is called vaginitis. A discharge that’s stained with blood when you’re not having your period could also be a sign of a problem. So also the yellowish and almost greenish discharge. If you have any of these signs, you should not hesitate to see your doctor or a gynecologist. Below are some tips of how to ward off vaginitis.

Tips on preventing vaginitis

• After using the toilet, always wipe from front to back. This may help prevent getting bacteria from your rectal area into your vagina.
• Wear cotton underpants during the day. Cotton allows your genital area to “breathe.” Don’t wear underpants at night.
• Avoid wearing tight pants, pantyhose, swimming suits, biking shorts or leotards for long periods.
• Change your laundry detergent or fabric softener if you think it may be irritating your genital area.
• The latex in condoms and diaphragms and the sperm-killing gels that are used for birth control can be irritating for some women. If you think one of these things is a problem for you, talk to your doctor about other types of birth control.
• Avoid hot tubs.
• Bathe or shower daily and pat your genital area dry.
• Don’t douche.
• Avoid feminine hygiene sprays, colored or perfumed toilet paper, deodorant pads or tampons, and bubble bath.

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Question:
I have a big time queef or vaginal fart each time me and my hubby perform doggy style. It amuses me a lot and Iʼm totally embarrassed because of this. How to curb this problem? Help!

Answer:
Queef or Flatus vaginalis is air coming from the vagina during or after sexual intercourse. In popular speech it is called a vaginal fart.

• Air is pumped into the vagina by the penis moving in and out. In some position this happens quite easily, like doggy position

• This air has to escape, making it sounds as if the girl is farting, but it comes from her vagina and is odourless.

• Of course this can be embarrassing, but it is no big deal when you are both able to laugh about it. Maybe you can make recording of it just in case it did not happen anymore!

There is no standard solution to avoid vaginal farting. But you could try the following:

1. If you do it ‘doggy style’ you can try to rise or lower your upper body, making the penis enter from a different angle.

2. Your partner can try short instead of long deep thrusts. When the penis stays in the vagina deeper, air might not be pumped in to begin with.

3. Change position.

4. Use a water-based lubricant when you start, applying it to your vagina opening and the are between your small lip, easy for the penis to slide into your vagina.

5. You can spread your legs more or keep them closer together. You can tighten your grip and during pelvic trust your partner keeps his penis inside till sex is over.

If you also pass flatus, the smell is of course revealing and don’t blame it to your vagina. Deep thrust can dispel gas accumulated in lower end of the colon and produce the flatus.

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